When getting technical & legal, we forget our personal relationships

The Lord Is My Chef Daily Recipe for the Soul by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II
Friday, Memorial of San Roque (St. Rock/Roche), Healer, 16 August 2024
Ezekiel 16:1-15, 60, 63 <*((((>< + ><))))*> Matthew 19:3-12
Photo by author, 15 August 2024.
God our loving Father,
thank you for the gift of personhood,
for your gift of personal relationship
with each one of us;
your servant St. John Paul II
defined a person as a
"full, conscious, relating being."
Very true but sadly,
we never recognize your gift
of personhood,
of our being a person
and its fruit of relationships;
instead of looking into the
heart and soul of every one of us,
we prefer to see each one
in the mind, in the letter,
in the technical than personal:

Some Pharisees approached Jesus, and tested him, saying, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause whatever?” (Matthew 19:3)

Soften our hearts, Jesus;
take away our stony hearts
and give us natural hearts
that beats with firm faith,
fervent hope in You,
and unceasing charity for everyone.

Forgive us for being so captivated
by our own beauty and prowess,
remove our confusion
and let us be silenced for shame
(Ezekiel 16:15, 63)
to remember your covenant
by appreciating and being open
to your gift of person and relationships
by striving to keep this alive
despite our many flaws and sins.
Amen.
St. Rock,
pray for us so infected
by another kind of pestilence
of pandemic proportion when
we see persons as objects
and make objects like persons.
Amen.

Walking life’s hills with Jesus

The Lord Is My Chef Daily Recipe for the Soul by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II
Thursday, Solemnity of the Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary, 15 August 2024
Revelation 11:19;12:1-6, 10 ><}}}}*> 1 Corinthians 15:20-27 ><}}}}*> Luke 1:39-56
Photo from shutterstock.com
Glory and praise,
God Almighty Father
in sending us Jesus our Savior
who gave us His Mother
the Blessed Virgin Mary,
the very first fruit as St. Paul said
of Christ's wondrous work
of salvation due her oneness in Him.

Mary set out and traveled to the hill country in haste to a town of Judah, where she entered the house of Zechariah and greeted Elizabeth (Luke 1:39-40).

Right after the Annunciation
to Mary, her path to her Assumption
began when she "set out and
travelled to the hill country in haste"
to share Christ in her with Elizabeth;
what a beautiful imagery of the same
path to the Calvary, another hill
outside Jerusalem to be with Christ
her Son.
Bless us with the same grace 
You gave Mary your Mother, Lord Jesus,
to follow your path to every hill in this life,
to be one with those especially who are
in pain and suffering; let us trust in You
fully in faith, hope and love that the
sufferings we may endure in setting out
to travel to the hills of this life is
the very path of our assumption
in You; let us realize that despite the
many comforts and ease of technology
today, it is not what life really is, that
we all have to go through your
Passion, Death, and Resurrection.
Like Mary, may we believe
your words, Jesus,
will be fulfilled.
Amen.
“The Assumption of the Virgin” by Italian Renaissance painter Titian completed in 1518 for the main altar of Frari church in Venice. Photo from en.wikipedia.org.

Way of God, way of man

The Lord Is My Chef Daily Recipe for the Soul by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II
Friday, Memorial of St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross, Martyr, 09 August 2024
Nahum 2:1, 3; 3:1-3, 6-7 <*((((>< + ><))))*> Matthew 16:24-28
Photo by author, Chapel of the Angel of Peace, 25 June 2024.
Lord Jesus Christ,
yesterday You reprimanded Peter
for "thinking not as God does,
but as human beings do";
today, You tell us what is to
think as God does by choosing
your path of the Cross:

Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it” (Matthew 16:24-25).

Forgive us, dear Jesus,
for always choosing the path of
humans, thinking of one's self,
taking and grabbing whatever
is available, unmindful of others;
give us the courage of St. Teresa
Benedicta of the Cross known as
the philosopher Edith Stein:
born to a family of means
and comfort, one of the first women
to study and teach in university
before World War II in Europe
who became an atheist
only to discover the truth of God
upon meeting a good friend filled with joy
despite the death of her husband;
she eventually converted to Catholic faith
and when war was raging in Europe
as Hitler ordered the extermination of Jews,
St. Benedicta remained despite her many
chances of leaving safely to Switzerland or
South America only to be imprisoned
later at Auschwitz where she died
a martyr in 1942, described by one survivor
of the Holcaust as a "Pieta without the Christ."
In this life of affluence,
of noise and glamor,
St. Benedicta of the Cross taught
as of the beauty of poverty,
of silence and of simplicity,
of choosing your ways, O Lord Jesus
for indeed, "what would there be
for one to gain the whole world
and forfeit his life?"
Sadly, it is happening now, Lord,
it is happening: families so divided
because of fame and wealth,
friendships destroyed because of ideologies,
a nation, a culture going down the drain
because of modern thoughts
so far from your ways, Jesus.

St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross,
Pray for us to see and follow
the light of Jesus Christ.
Amen.

Written in our hearts

The Lord Is My Chef Daily Recipe for the Soul by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II
Thursday, Memorial of St. Dominic, Priest, 08 August 2024
Jeremiah 31:31-34 <*((((>< + ><))))*> Matthew 16:13-23
Photo by Javon Swaby on Pexels.com
Graffiti: a writing or drawings on a wall
or other surface, usually without permission
and within public view.

Writings on the wall: an idiom that means
to say something will fail or something
unpleasant will happen like during the time
King Belshazzar when there appeared
writings on the wall of Babylon's impending
end (see Daniel 5:1-30).
Photo by author, Sacred Heart Novitiate, 20 March 2024.

The days are coming, says the Lord, when I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah. But this is the covenant which I will make with the house of Israel after those days, says the Lord. I will place my law within them, and write it uppn their hearts; I will be their God, and they shall be my people (Jeremiah 31:31, 33).

How lovely,
O God our Father,
You chose to write your covenant
on our hearts-
not on the walls
nor documents
that often spell danger
and disaster
or doom and endings;
how lovely
to simply just look
inside our hearts to find
You and your covenant,
O God;
no need to look out
or look up
or look down
and see dirt
and chaos.
Your writing
on our hearts is simple,
noble and reassuring:
You shall be our God,
we are your people;
when Jesus came,
He gave us His heart
to visibly make
that writing,
that covenant
simply the word LOVE.
Many times,
we cannot find
your laws,
your writing on our hearts
because we have covered
them with so many other gods;
very often,
Jesus comes to us
asking us the same question
to the Twelve,
"But who do you say
that I am?"
but we are so busy
with our many pursuits in life,
reading the many writings
on the wall and pavements
of our sick world.

Cleanse our hearts, Lord
to truly give You our
sincere answers
and remember your
covenant of love
written on our hearts.
Amen.
St. Dominic De Guzman,
Pray for us!

Faith is hope

The Lord Is My Chef Daily Recipe for the Soul by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II
Wednesday in the Eighteenth Week of Ordinary Time, Year II, 07 August 2024
Jeremiah 31:1-7 <*((((>< + ><))))*> Matthew 15:21-28
Photo by author, Sacred Heart Novitiate, Novaliches, QC, 20 March 2024.

Yes, a day will come when the watchmen will call out on Mount Ephraim: “Rise up, let us go to Zion, to the Lord, our God.” For thus says the Lord: Shout with joy for Jacob, exult at the head of the nations; proclaim your praise and say: The Lord has delivered his people, the remnant of Israel (Jeremiah 31:6-7).

How refreshing are your words
today, God our loving Father;
so upbeat with hope
for the divided nation of
Judah and Israel to finally
be one just like us today:
so divided recently with all
the mockery and sacrilege
in the Paris Olympics
only to be united
by Carlos Yulo's
recent harvest of two gold medals;
what a beautiful lesson in faith in You
that is also hope itself;
from being the least supported
and known sport in the country,
Yulo remained faithful
filled with hope in You
while persevering in gymnastics;
like Yulo and Jeremiah's command,
let us shout with joy to You,
proclaiming your redemption
that literally means "Hosanna"
in Hebrew, the very shouts of joy
when Jesus entered Jerusalem
on Palm Sunday.

She said, “Please, Lord, for even the dogs eat the scraps that fall from the table of their masters.” Then Jesus said to her in reply, “O woman, great is uyour faith! Let it be done for you as you wish.” And her daughter was healed from that hour (Matthew 15:27-28).

Like that Canaanite woman
who begged Jesus,
even bantered with Him
about dogs and puppies,
bread and crumbs
for mercy and healing to her
sick daughter,
help us realize that faith is hope;
that hope is more than positive thinking
of how things would get better
but could even get worse
yet still believe in God!

Thank you Jesus
for always coming to "pagan"
territories like Tyre and Sidon;
keep our faith and hope burning
to await You,
to recognize You,
to meet You
coming in the midst of our
many darkness and brokenness.
Amen.

Transfiguration is more of ears than lips to lead to our hearts

The Lord Is My Chef Daily Recipe for the Soul by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II
Tuesday, Feast of the Transfiguration of the Lord, 06 August 2024
Daniel 7:9-10, 13-14 ><}}}}*> 2 Peter 1:16-19 ><}}}}*> Mark 9:2-10
Photo from commons.wikimedia.org of mosaic inside the Basilica of the Transfiguration on Mt. Tabor, Israel.
Thank you very much, Lord Jesus,
"in taking us always with You,
apart from others by ourselves
like Peter, James, and his brother John
to a high mountain” (cf. Mark 9:2);
many times You set us apart from others
amid many darkness like that night
on Mount Tabor
just to be with You,
to experience You;
how ironic in this age of
so much light everywhere
with a world running 24/7,
the more we are plunged
in darkness
that we feel lost and empty.
Continue to invite us
to detach from so much
worldly attachments
that are so irresistible
due to social media
and the glamor that come with them.

And he was transfigured before them, and his clothes became dazzling white, such as no fuller on earth could bleach them… Then a cloud came, casting a shadow over them; then from the cloud came a voice, “This is my beloved Son. Listen to him” (Mark 9:2-3, 7).

Like Peter, James, and John
we also wonder at the meaning
of your Passion and Death when You
are the Christ?
Why all the sufferings happening
in us and among us with all
the confusions and divisions going on?
Like Peter during the Transfiguration,
we do not know what we are saying to you, Lord;
whether we are filled with joy or burdened
with sorrow, we speak without thinking much
even if you know what is in our hearts.
Open our hearts, dear Jesus,
to always listen to You by remaining with You
on the path to Your Cross;
let us listen more than talk
or click more without much reflections;
two ears form the image of heart,
never the mouth nor the lips.
Let us heed Peter in his words today:

Moreover, we possess the prophetic message that is altogether reliable. You will do well to be attentive to it, as to lamp shining in a dark place, until day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts (2 Peter 1:19).

Bring us back to your path of faith, Jesus;
amidst all these noise and divisions
of relativism and wokism,
open our hearts by listening intently
to your voice when all is dark
and even dead or as it happens these days,
blindingly so bright with artificial lights
because for as long as we return to You,
sin and failures become means for us
to be changed and transformed -
or transfigured
when we rise in your Resurrection.
Amen.
A 1311 painting of the Transfiguration by Italian artist Duccio di Buoninsegna from commons.wikimedia.org.

What we can do in the work of God

The Lord Is My Chef Sunday Recipe for the Soul by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II
Eighteenth Sunday in the Ordinary Time, Cycle B, 04 August 2024
Exodus 16:2-4, 12-15 ><}}}}*> Ephesians 4:17, 20-24 ><}}}}*> John 6:24-35
Photo by author, Lake of Galilee, the Holy Land, May 2017.

We are now back in Capernaum where Jesus used to frequently teach in its synagogue during His ministry.

Remember last Sunday how Jesus fled from the crowd when He felt them wanting to take and make Him a king upon seeing His miraculous feeding of over five thousand people from five loaves of bread and two pieces of fish with a lot of leftovers. The people looked for Him and found Him in Capernaum, the setting of all of our gospel scenes these four Sundays of August.

There at Capernaum was a beautiful exchange in the conversation between Jesus and the people that eventually led to the Bread of Life discourse of the Lord in this sixth chapter of John’s gospel. Remember too that for John, the miracles Jesus performed were signs that pointed to Him as the Christ. Hence, this important reminder to the crowd who have sought Him that day as well as to us living in these interesting times today:

“Do not work for food that perishes but for the food that endures for eternalnlife, which the Son of Man will give you. For on him the Father, God, has set his seal.” So they said to him, “What can we do to accomplish the works of God?” Jesus answered and said to them, “This is the work of God, that you believe in the one he sent” (John 6:27-29).

Photo by author, tourists and pilgrims alike at the ruins of the Capernaum synagogue, May 2017.

“Do not work for food that perishes but for the food that endures for eternal life, which the Son of Man will give you.”

Jesus knows very well the importance of work for us humans, of how hard we have to work to earn our daily bread, to buy and pay for things so needed in life. But, these earthly food we are all busy working for can sustain us only for a life timeas we very well know that we surely die one day.

There is another food that is more essential that “endures for eternal life” we can only receive from Jesus Himself – His words and His Body and Blood in the Holy Eucharist which is the “summit of Christian life.”

Of course, we have to work for this food because it does not come on its own. We must receive and welcome this food as a gift of Jesus Christ whom the Father has sent. We have to work and exert efforts to pray and listen to God’s words, to wake up early and prepare ourselves for the Sunday Mass and other devotions we have. Hence, the second question of the crowd to Jesus:

“What can we do to accomplish to the works of God?”

Photo by Mr. Boy Cabrido, Quiapo Fiesta 2024.

Very striking here is their eagerness to know what they can do to have that food that “endures for eternal life.”

Are we not the same with our desire to really know things about religion and spirituality or just anything we heard to be so good?

It sounded so much like that same zeal displayed by a young man who approached Jesus and asked, “Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?” (Mk.10:17). Nothing is wrong with this attitude of openness to God but, the problem is when we expect the work to be given to us is something like a shortcut or easy access in having that “food that endures for eternal life” like that young man. Sometimes, we ask self-serving questions about faith and religion not only for the benefits we can have but also for fame like that young man who proudly declared to Jesus he had followed all commandments since childhood; but, when the Lord told him to go and sell his properties to give it to the poor and come follow him, his face fell and left sad. This eventually would become the scene in Capernaum as we shall see in the coming Sundays.

For now, let us reflect on Christ’s answer to the crowd’s question.

“This is the work of God of God, that you believe in the one he sent.”

Photo by author, Mass in Capernaum, May 2017.

This will be the start of the revelation of the true motives of the crowd who have come looking for Jesus. Last Sunday, we reflected how they have followed Jesus because of the many signs they have seen from Him like healing of the sick and raising to life the dead daughter of Jairus.

Slowly we see this Sunday the conceit and pride in their hearts, and perhaps within us too! Jesus is neither proposing new works to accomplish and fulfill in God’s name nor alter or change the commandments given through Moses. As the Christ or Anointed of God, Jesus is demanding complete faith in Him!

It was a most unique and unprecedented demand by Christ from the people then and now, asking us all to have total commitment in Him whom we believe. Whatever we want to do or do not want to do depends entirely in our imitation of Jesus Christ.

Like last Sunday, it is the very person of Jesus Christ that is being stressed here that unfortunately, even the closest disciples Philip and Andrew failed to “see” when they saw more of the problem with the crowd and the scarcity of bread and fish they have. They did not see Jesus despite their having witnessed and experienced His many miracles like us today.

Instead of being humble, the crowd asked Jesus for signs He can do so they would believe Him, even challenged Him with the works by Moses in the desert in feeding their ancestors with manna in their wandering. Like in resisting the temptations of the devil in the wilderness, Jesus declared the basic truth people often forget: the manna fed to the people was not the work by Moses alone but entirely and truly by God the Father in heaven!

This is something we must always remember: the work we have in this life is not ours but God’s so that in everything we do and say, it is God who is proclaimed and made known for He alone can fulfill us in Jesus who said today in closing our gospel scene, “I am the bread of life, whoever comes to me will never hunger, and whoever believes in me will never thirst” (Jn.6:34).

Jesus is the bread from heaven sent down to us by God, prefigured by the manna in the first reading we have heard, the food who brings us to fulfillment in God expressed during the Last Supper that was confirmed the following Good Friday at His Crucifixion.

Life is a call from God for us to do our part in His work through Jesus Christ. We need to collaborate with Him, in Him and through Him as He had declared at the Last Supper to “do this in memory of me.” That is why it is so sad and deplorable how the people behind the opening show of the Paris Olympics made a mockery of the Lord’s Supper. (Even if we shall accept their explanations it wasn’t about the Last Supper, it was still a show so ugly and tasteless, an affront to any person.)

What is most undeniable is the pride of the people behind the Paris Olympics including their defenders who insist until now how everything is clearly about “what can we do” like the proud crowd with Jesus in Capernaum.

What was supposed to show the wonderful contributions and achievements of France to the world in terms of culture and intellectual advancements have all crumbled into a disgraceful display of what is now wrong in France and even the Western world. They have exaggerated the relative truths they hold on to exaggerate themselves. In their claims of being inclusive, they have become exclusive and divisive, so far from the “sign” of the Olympics. Very sad but still, may you all have a blessed week ahead. It is a Sunday, go celebrate Mass with your family and loved ones. Let us pray:

God our loving Father,
thank you in giving us Jesus Christ
your Son as our bread from heaven;
remind us always not about
what we can do or must do
for we just do your work
here on earth but to simply
remember and keep in mind
we are your children in Christ,
to "stop living in the futility of our minds
by putting away our old self
of corrupted and deceitful desires
renewed in the spirit of our minds,
to put on our new self in Christ",
created male and female
"in your way in righteousness
and holiness of truth"
(Ephesians 4:17, 22-24)
Amen.

Pagninilay, paglilinaw sa paliwanag

Lawiswis ng Salita ni P. Nicanor F. Lalog II, Ika-01 ng Agosto 2024
Larawan kuha ng may-akda, bukang liwayway sa Lawa ng Galilea, Israel, Mayo 2019.
Unang araw 
sa buwan ng Agosto,
buwan ng wika
ako ay nakatunganga
sa pagkamangha
sa isang salita: PALIWANAG
sa wikang Inggles,
"explanation"
at kung gagamiting pandiwa
"to explain" ito ay magPALIWANAG.
Kay sarap namnamin
at damhin mga kataga
nitong ating wika
tulad ng PALIWANAG
nagsasaad ng pagbibigay
liwanag dahil mayroong
kadiliman minsa'y panlalabo
kaya nililinaw upang
matanaw, makita kahit man lang
maaninag upang matukoy, makilala.
Mahirap kasi
mag-apuhap sa gitna ng
kadiliman na kawalan ng katiyakan:
ika'y nangangapa
at nangangamba
kung ano iyong mahawakan,
makuha kaya nakakatakot
sa dilim na wala kang
nakikita dahil pati ikaw
baka tuluyang mawala pa!
Inyong pagmasdan
malaking kadiliman
na sa ati'y bumabalot
kamakailan
kaya kay raming
nagpapaliwanag
naglilinaw dahil
sa mga ginawa
at ipinahayag
na puro kaguluhan:
Waiter sa Cebu
pinagpaliwanagan
ng halos dalawang oras
habang nakatindig
sa harapan ng customer
na tinawag niyang "Sir"
na ibig ituring siya na "Mam";
kay daming paliwanag
ni "Mam" pero malabo pa rin
dahil malinaw pa sa araw
maski sa mga larawan
na siya ay Sir!
Hanggang ngayon
nagpapaliwanag pa rin
mga pasimuno ng paglapastangan
sa Huling Hapunan
ng Panginoon
na lalong nababaon
dahil maliwanag
kanilang kasinungalingan
na ang kadiliman ng kapalaluan
at kasamaan kanilang pagpugayan
taliwas sa layuning
magkaroon ng pagbubuklod at kaisahan.
Hindi lang minsan
ating narinig
masabihang
"ang labo mo naman"
kaya kinakailangang
magpaliwanag
upang maunawaan
at maintindihan
na siyang daan sa
magandang pagsasamahan.
Heto ngayon ating pagnilayan
pagbulayan aking katanungan:
nagPALIWANAG
ba ang Panginoong Jesus
sa Kanyang mga pangangaral?
Maliban sa pagpapaliwanag
ng mga talinghaga ng sarilinan
sa mga alagad,
walang ipinaliwanag
si Jesus dahil maliwanag
Siyang palagi at higit sa lahat
Siya ang Liwanag ng Sanlibutan.
Madalas hindi Siya
maunawaan, maintindihan
at matanggap ng mga tao noon
hanggang ngayon
ngunit kailanman walang binawi na salita
ang Panginoong Jesus dahil maliwanag ang lahat:
"Ako ang daan at katotohanan" (Jn.14:6),
"Ako ang muling pagkabuhay at ang buhay" (Jn. 11:25)
"Ako ang pagkaing bumaba mula sa langit;
ang kumakain ng aking laman at umiinom ng aking dugo
ay may buhay na walang hanggan,
at muli ko siyang bubuhayin sa huling araw" (Jn. 6:54).
Nang linisin ni Jesus ang templo
sinabi sa mga tao na gibain iyon
at kanyang itatayo sa loob ng tatlong araw;
Siya ay pinagtawanan ng mga kalaban
ngunit malinaw na sinasaad sa kasulatan
nang muli Siyang mabuhay ay naunawaan
ng mga alagad ang tinutukoy Niyang templo
ay ang Kanyang Banal na Katawan (Jn. 2:18-22);
maliwanag si Jesus ay palaging malinaw
kaya kahit sa gitna ng kadiliman Siya ay maliwanag.
Lumapit tayo kay Jesus
at hayaang liwanagan Niya kadiliman
sa ating puso at kalooban
katulad nina Nicodemo at Dimas
na umamin sa kanilang kamangmangan at kasalanan
kaya natamo ang liwanag at kaligtasan;
hindi mahirap tuntunin
katotohanan at liwanag ng Panginoon natin
kung ating aaminin at aalisin
mga piring sa ating paningin
upang mabuksan puso at kalooban
sa kagandahan at dangal ng
kabutihan ng bawat nilalang
hindi ang ipangalandakan
sariling husay at kaalaman
maging antas ng kalinangan!

Tandaan at panghawakan,
tiyak na kaliwanagan ng mga salitang binitiwan
ng Panginoon sa atin sana ay magpaalaala:
"Ang nagpapakataas ay ibababa,
at ang nagpapakababa ay itataas" (Mt.23:12)

	

To love is to be small to be a part of the other person

A wedding homily for Sir Vicente R. Santos III & Ms. Jillian Bianca Carpio
St. Michael the Archangel Parish, Bonifacio Global City, Taguig, 12 July 2024
Tobit 8:4b-8 >><}}}}*> + <*{{{{><< John 15:9-12
Photo by author in La Trinidad, Benguet, 12 July 2023.

Congratulations, Sir Teng and Mam Jill on your wedding day. Your decision to get married in the Church is an expression of love itself because love is a decision, not just a feeling. Making a decision to get married is a choice to be small, to be broken into pieces to be united, to be one with the other person, your beloved.

Every time we make that decision to love, we renounce our very selves, our selfishness. The truest sign that we love is when we are able to love somebody more than our self; and to grow in love is to always choose the other person by a daily renunciation of one’s self which Ben&Ben sang so well, “Mahiwaga… pipiliin ka sa araw-araw…”

Photo by author, Camp John Hay, 12 July 2023.

This we saw in our first reading in the beautiful prayer by Tobiah with Sarah on their honeymoon when he mentioned God’s original plan in Genesis in creating woman as a suitable partner of man.

The root word of “partner” is part. A part is always small that makes up the whole. Every whole is made up of small parts.

A part-ner means you are both a part of each other and you both have to be small in order to be whole as married couple.

In that beautiful story of Tobiah and Sarah, we find them choosing to become small in order to become part of the bigger whole, of each other, and of God.

Tobiah is the son of Tobit who lived in exile in Nineveh, the capital of Assyria that had conquered Israel in the Old Testament. Tobit used to be wealthy but had a reversal of fortunes later in life made worse with his going blind. He sent his son Tobiah to Media to collect a debt from a fellow Jew with hopes he could also find there a bride for himself among their kindred.

God then sent Archangel Raphael who disguised as a traveler to Tobiah who was so kind to welcome him as companion. On their way to Media, Tobiah was attacked by a large, strange fish while taking a bath at the Tigris River. Tobiah was able to subdue the creature while Raphael instructed him to take out its heart, liver and gall due to its medicinal properties. Tobiah obeyed Raphael and they proceeded to Media to collect the debt owed to his father. There he met and fell for a Jewish woman named Sarah.

But, there was a major problem with Sarah: she had been widowed seven times because the devil Asmodeus would always come and kill her husband just before their honeymoon!

Engraving of Raphael instructing Tobiah to gut the fish by Georg Pencz (1543) from en.wikipedia.org.

Raphael pushed Tobiah to still marry Sarah, teaching how to drive away the devil Asmodeus on their honeymoon by burning the heart and liver of the strange fish he had killed. Tobiah followed Raphael’s instructions and Asmodeus was finally driven away that is why we have this scene of them praying in thanksgiving for their marriage. (This is the reason St. Raphael is portrayed with a fish and why arbularyos burn fish intestines to drive away evil spirits.)

Tobiah returned home to present his wife Sarah to his parents in Nineveh; Raphael again instructed Tobiah to apply the dried gall of the fish onto the eyes of his father Tobit to regain his sight. Amid their celebrations for Tobit’s healing and Tobiah’s marriage, Raphael revealed himself as God’s archangel sent to them to bring their healing which is the meaning of the name Raphael, “God has healed”.

See how Tobiah and Sarah, as well as Tobit even Archangel Raphael chose to be small and humble before God and everyone, to play mere parts in the grand plan of God in their lives. They were all willing to be humble and small.

Photo by author, St. Michael Archangel Parish, BGC, Taguig City, 12 July 2024.

Sir Teng and Mam Jill, you were sent for each other by God like St. Raphael to Tobiah and Sarah and Tobit. Handle your life with prayer. Always invite Jesus into your life as a married couple just like today you when you invited Him to bless your wedding. Do not forget to celebrate Mass every Sunday, to pray daily, as much as possible together as husband and wife.

True greatness is in becoming small like a little child as Jesus Christ repeatedly told His disciples. In this world where we compete on being the biggest and most powerful, God tells us the key to fulfillment is in being small, being humble, to become a part of the whole. The greatness of every person depends on the measure of his or her ability to share because it is only in participating in the whole does one becomes truly great.

Marriage is becoming small to become one. Husband and wife cannot be one unless they let go of themselves first. Marriage is not a competition of who has more love to give and share but simply of loving and loving, giving and giving.

When you reflected Sir Teng on what to do with your life and realized you will never be complete without Mam Jill, that is being small, that is truly loving because you are willing to let go of yourself to be a part of Jill.

Remember, there’s no perfect husband nor perfect wife but you can be the ideal husband, the ideal wife by forgetting yourself through daily conversion in Jesus Christ who gave His total self out of love for us. And you do not have to die on the cross literally, Sir Teng and Mam Jill.

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Sir Teng, the ideal husband is someone who is deaf. Bingi. You know how women are. They talk a lot as they remember everything in detail even from long, long time ago. The moment Mam Jill starts talking, play deaf. So you don’t quarrel or debate.

Mam Jill, the idal wife is someone who is blind. Bulag. Problem with women is you see everything, kahit wala naman, may nakikita pa rin mga babae. When you see something with Sir Teng, play blind. Wala yun. Mabait siya talaga.

You two were brought together by your love for the French language. Every language is made up of small parts called letters used to form words put together in a sentence to express a thought or a feeling so we can communicate.

But, “communication is more than the expression of one’s thoughts and feelings; at its most profound level, it is the giving of self in love like Jesus Christ on the Cross” (Communio et Progressio #11)… just like every husband and wife too.

So, be small, Sir Teng and Mam Jill for you to remain in love, to grow in love, and be great in love. Amen.

Photo by author, 2018.

God, our dew of light

The Lord Is My Chef Daily Recipe for the Soul by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II
Thursday in the Fifteenth Week of Ordinary Time, Year II, 18 July 2024
Isaiah 26: 7-9, 12, 16-19 <'[[[[>< + ><]]]]'> Matthew 11:28-30
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Your words today,
O God, are so refreshing
that I wish to pray like your
Prophet Isaiah:
"The way of the just is smooth;
the path of the just you make level.
My soul yearns for you in the night,
yes, my spirit within me keeps vigil
for you;
For your dew
is a dew of light,
and the land of shades
gives birth"
(Isaiah 26:7, 9, 19).
Freshen us, O Lord,
from our dirt and exhaustion
from sin!

Refresh our thoughts
and our feelings, make them
crystal clear like the dew
in the morning to see your
kindness and mercy!

Gladden our hearts,
uplift our souls
with your presence in
Christ Jesus who calls us
daily to come to Him
and have rest,
because His yoke is easy,
His burden is light
(Matthew 11:28-30).
Let us surrender to You
in Jesus Christ
for there is no salvation
outside from You except in Him;
so true are the words of Isaiah:
"As a woman about to give birth
writhes and cries out in pains,
so were we in your presence, O Lord.
We conceived and writhed in pain,
giving birth to wind; salvation
we have not achieved for the earth,
the inhabitants of the world
cannot bring it forth.
But your dead shall live,
their corpses shall rise;
awake and sing,
you who lie in the dust"
(Isaiah 11: 17-19).
Teach us to appreciate
and value the little things in life
we take for granted
like the droplets of dew in the morning
enough to set our face aglow again
of new beginnings; in coming to us,
Jesus taught us the value of being
small, being little,
being silent, being humble
when life begins
and regenerates always.
Let us arise anew in Jesus
from our deep sleep in sin
through His dew of light,
a glimmer of better days ahead.
Amen.
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