It is where we stand that matters most, not where we sit

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During His Last Supper, Jesus rose from His seat to wash the feet of His apostles to show them what position is all about:  loving service to one another.  See in this icon from Google there are only 11 apostles present; Judas left the Last Supper to “unseat” the Lord.  Above is the word “mandatum”, Latin for “command”, Christ’s command for us to love by leaving our seats of power and comfort to stand with Him at His Cross.
Quiet Storm by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II, 22 February 2019
If you are a Catholic and a regular Mass-goer, most likely you always follow the “Roman seating position” – that is, you always sit at the back, avoiding the front seats even in other gatherings outside the church.

According to Msgr. Gerry Santos who used to give us retreats and recollections while we were seminarians, the “Roman seating position” is a carry-over from the martyrdom of the early Christians who were always seated at the front rows of the Colosseum in Rome who were forcibly pushed to be devoured by hungry lions and beasts below.

Of course it is a joke but it holds so much grain of truth because we often refuse to take the front row seats for fears of being put on the spot, of making a stand.  How ironic that in this age when seating positions matter so much for us, we have forgotten that more important than the position and prestige that come with the seats we occupy – literally and figuratively speaking – is the stand we take in every issue we face.  Protocols dictate in so many occasions how seats indicate power and authority; the throne is always reserved to the highest in rank like kings and presidents.  And the closer one is seated to the one in command, the wider is one’s sphere of power and influence too.  Unfortunately, this is not everything because every seat of power and authority is always a call to serve, to make a stand for what is true and what is good.

Jesus Christ showed us the true meaning of our seating positions during the Last Supper on Holy Thursday evening when He rose to remove His outer garments to wash the feet of His apostles (Jn.13:1-15).  It was a task left for slaves only but Jesus used it as a gospel parable in action to show us that what matters most in life is not where we are seated with Him but where we stand with Him.  It was exactly what He meant when He said that anyone who wishes to be the greatest must be the least and the servant of all.

Recall my dear readers how during that evening of the Holy Thursday when John the beloved disciple sat not only beside Jesus but even rested his head on His chest to signify their intimacy as friends (Jn. 13:23).  That touching gesture of friendship and love took its summit the following Good Friday when John the beloved was the only one of the Twelve who remained standing with the Lord at the foot of His Cross with the Blessed Mother Mary.  In that scene we see how John literally stood his ground as the beloved disciple by remaining faithful and loving with the Lord from His Last Supper to His Crucifixion.  Peter, the prince of the Apostles, was nowhere to be found on Good Friday after denying Jesus thrice during His trial before the Sanhedrin the night of His arrest.  Very interesting was Judas Iscariot who committed suicide after realizing his grave sin in betraying the Lord.  See how he had left the Lord’s Supper to deal with His enemies for His arrest.  What an image of the traitor who could not stay on his seat during the Lord’s Supper was the same one who could not stand to face Him again at the foot of the Cross.  See how those people who refuse to sit with us are also the ones who never stand with us, stand for us like Judas, a traitor!

I tell you these things even if Holy Week is still more than six weeks from now but in the light of the Feast of the Chair of St. Peter which is about the Primacy of Rome or the Pope as Vicar of Christ and successor of St. Peter.  We celebrate this Feast to remember St. Peter and his successors love and service to the Church as examples we must all emulate.  In 110 AD, St. Ignatius of Antioch wrote the Christians in Rome to describe to them the Church of Rome as the “primacy of love” and the “primacy of faith”.  Every power and every authority signified by the chair or cathedra in the Church as well as in the world when we speak of “seat of power” must always be seen in the light of Jesus Christ’s example of loving service at His Last Supper.  This is especially true for us priests who are united in Christ and with Christ in the Eucharist.

This festering problem of sexual abuse in the Church is largely due to our deviation from this primacy in love for Jesus as priests.  We have been so focused with our seats – positions and titles – that we have forgotten to stand with Christ at the foot of His cross, standing for what is good and true, just and right.  We have been so focused with the “party” of the Supper of the Lord and have forgotten Jesus Himself.  Seminarians have been so focused with the vocation and the call, with ordination, forgetting the more essential, the Caller Jesus Himself!  And that explains why some in the clergy and those in the hierarchy come up with so many excuses and alibis for the many things we do in our ministry, in our churches, in our parishes, and in our lives because we are only concerned with our office and position but never the Master.

When we love Jesus or any other person, we do not have to justify our actions.  Love that is true and pure does not need justifications.  But the moment we start making justifications, something is wrong like when we justify our special relationships, no matter how deep or shallow it may be for clearly, there is no primacy in love for Jesus and the Church.

When we justify our vices, our lifestyles, our business endeavors that Canon Law prohibits, clearly there is no primacy in love for we cannot be poor for Christ.

There is no problem with having advocacies as priests but when we are aligned with ideologies contrary to Christ, or when we play in partisan politics, there is neither primacy of faith nor primacy of love.  It is the Lord who changes the world, not us, not our programs, not our ideas.

It is our duty as priests to love like Christ but to adopt children and raise them as our own children using our names, there is no celibacy, only stupidity.

Like Jesus, we need money to get our programs going but when we lack transparency and accountability, that is stealing and banditry.

When all we have is the ministry, the priesthood without prayer periods, without the Eucharist, we only have the call but not the Caller Jesus Christ Himself.

More than ever, today Jesus Christ is asking us all His priests to make a stand for Him, to stand with Him, to suffer with Him and to die with Him by leaving our seats of comfort and seats of power.

 

Our Seat, Our Stand?

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The Chair of St. Peter at the high altar of the Basilica of St. Peter at the Vatican flanked below by the two teachers of the East, St. John Chrysostom and St. Athanasius with the two Latin Fathers of the Church St. Ambrose and St. Augustine.  All four saints showed us how love stands on faith; that,  without both love and faith, everything falls apart in the Church.  Photo from Bing.
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Friday, Feast of the Chair of St. Peter, 22 February 2019
1Peter 5:1-4///Matthew 16:13-19

             Glory and praise to you, O Lord Jesus Christ as we celebrate today a most unique feast, the Chair of St. Peter!

             It is so unique O Lord especially in this age when the world is so concerned with seating arrangement whether at home, in school, in offices, in buses… everywhere seats matter these days because every seat is about position, rank, power and convenience.

             And we have forgotten that more important than our seating position is where we stand.

             On this Feast of the Chair of St. Peter, remind us Lord especially your priests of that beautiful example you have shown at the Last Supper when you left your seat to wash the feet of the Apostles.

             How sad and shameful, O Lord, when we your priests fail to realize that the throne of the Eucharist is not a seat of power or prestige but a seat of loving service to everyone.

             So true were the words of St. Ignatius of Antioch in his Letter to the Romans in the year 110 that the Primacy of Rome is the Primacy of Love because primacy in faith is always primacy in love, two things we can never separate.

             May we your priests heed the call of St. Peter, the designated “owner” of that Chair, that we “Tend the flock of God in your midst, overseeing not by constraint but willingly, as God would have it, not for  shameful profit but eagerly.  Do not lord it over those assigned to you, but be examples to the flock” (1Pt.5:2-3).  Amen.  Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II, Parokya ng San Juan Apostol at Ebanghelista, Gov. F. Halili Ave., Bagbaguin, Sta. Maria, Bulacan. 

Thinking Like Jesus

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Photo from Bing.
The Lord Is My Chef Breakfast Recipe for the Soul
Thursday, 21 February 2019, Week VI, Year I
Genesis 9:1-13///Mark 8:27-33
My dearest God and Father, today you remind me of the beautiful story of Noah, of how you had promised through him never again to destroy earth.

What a joy always to my eyes to see your rainbow, its beautiful colors without any definitive origin nor end, reminding me of how you have given us more than a promise but a covenant.

When I was a child, I always heard that at the end of every rainbow is a pot of gold that would make anyone who would find it very wealthy.  As I matured, I realized O God that the pot of gold of your rainbow is your Son Jesus Christ our Lord:  whoever finds Him becomes wealthy indeed!

Like the song of the psalmist today, “From heaven the Lord looks down on the earth”, Jesus became your rainbow, your new covenant who stretched  His arms on the Cross to save us.

Give me the grace O God to think like Jesus as the Christ who willed to suffer and die for us in accordance with your Holy Will.

Give me the grace O God to think like Jesus as the Christ so that my life and those around me are enriched in your love and mercy.  Amen.  Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II, Parokya ng San Juan Apostol at Ebanghelista, Gov. F. Halili Ave., Bagbaguin, Sta. Maria, Bulacan.

Patient Like Jesus

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A street performer at the Tamsui Fisherman’s Wharf in Taiwan must have tried and failed so many times before getting his permit from Taipei officials to perform in public.  Photo by the author taken last January 29, 2019
The Lord Is My Chef Breakfast Recipe for the Soul
Wednesday, 20 February 2019, Week VI, Year I
Genesis 8:6-13, 20-22///Mark 8:22-26

Lord Jesus Christ, yesterday you taught me of your great love and mercy through your fidelity and patience in my being too slow in understanding your signs of presence.

Thank you very much, Lord, for bearing with my mindlessness.

But today, I praise and thank you twice, even thrice, in giving me the grace of being patient like you in my persevering to keep on trying and hoping for your love and mercy, healing and grace.

Like that blind man in Bethsaida you have healed gradually, you have taught me how things are not that clear right away at your coming.  Sometimes, everything seems to be so blurred when “I see people looking like trees and walking” (Mk.8:24).

Like Noah in the first reading after the rains and the floods, it takes time before plants sprout and bloom again.  So many times, I just have to be like Noah, always waiting, always trying until the floods have subsided.

Let me offer you a sacrifice of praise today O Lord through my kindness and patience with others just like you.   Amen.  Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II, Parokya ng San Juan Apostol at Ebanghelista, Gov. F. Halili Ave., Bagbaguin, Sta. Maria, Bulacan.

The Patience and Fidelity of God

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Buds starting to grow on one of the many Cherry blossoms of Taiwan’s Yangming National Park near Taipei.  Photo by the author, 28 January 2019.
The Lord Is My Chef Breakfast Recipe for the Soul
Tuesday, 19 February 2019, Week VI, Year I
Genesis 6:5-8;7:1-5, 10///Mark 8:14-21

Thank you very much Lord Jesus Christ for your patience and fidelity in bearing with my mindlessness and lack of understanding in reading your signs in my life.

So many times, despite your many blessings and very presence in my life, I still don’t get it like your disciples that I can feel as so real, O Lord, your seeming desperation, asking me, “Do you still not understand?” (Mk.8:21)

There are times Lord that my mind wanders far into other concerns like the material “bread” being offered by the world that I easily forget the wondrous signs of far more important things you have been showing me like love and mercy, kindness and compassion.

Cleanse my heart, dear Jesus, especially when all I desire are evil like the people during the time of Noah.  Let me be on guard against the leaven and understanding of the world that is fleeting and temporary.  Amen.  Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II, Parokya ng San Juan Apostol at Ebanghelista, Gov. F. Halili Ave., Bagbaguin, Sta. Maria, Bulacan.

“Bugtong ng Buntung-hininga”

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Lawiswis ng Salita ni P. Nicanor F. Lalog II
Ika-18 ng Pebrero 2019

 

Bugtong palabugtong,
ako’y mayroong tanong:
Bakit nga ba sa tuwing ako’y napapabuntung-hininga
Ako’y sinasaway ng iba?

 

 
Walang paliwanag maibigay kanilang mga bibig
Malibang sabihing “a basta… huwag kang magbuntung-hininga!”
Kaya naman sa aking pagtataka,
Lalo pa akong napapabuntung-hininga.

 

 
Kahali-halina kasi itong pagbubuntung-hininga
Lalo na’t bigla kang mayroong nagunita
Kapos sa pananalita, walang mahagilap na kataga
Kung kaya’t humihinga na lang ng malalim.
 
 
Ito ngang Panginoong Hesus natin
Minsa’y napabuntung-hininga rin
Nang siya ay tanungin at kulitin
Ano’ng tanda kanyang maibibigay upang siya ay sambahin.
 
Katulad niya, tayo ma’y napapabuntung-hininga
Kapag tayo ay namamangha o napapatunganga
Sa mga pagkakataong di tayo makapaniwala
Lalo na’t hindi makita ni makuha ng iba mga bagay na kay ganda.

 

 
Sa pagbubuntung-hininga, ano mang buti at ganda
Na ating nakita, sinasariwa ng puso at alaala
Upang pagparoonan at maiwasan
Pakikipag-banggaan sa mga lilong hunghang.

 

 
Maganda at mabuti ang pagbubuntung-hininga
Naaabot katotohanang nakabaon sa kaibuturan natin
Hindi kayang ituring ni sabihin ng bibig natin
Liban nitong puso na parang hanging hininga natin.
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Ang makabuntung-hiningang talon ng Shifen sa Taiwan.  Kuha ng may-akda, 30 Enero 2019.

Of Sighs, Signs, and Sin

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The Lord Is My Chef Breakfast Recipe for the Soul
Monday, 18 February 2019, Week VI, Year I
Genesis 4:1-15, 25///Mark 8:11-13

Good morning Lord Jesus Christ!  I hope you don’t mind my asking you on this first day of work and studies:  why did you sigh in the gospel today?

The Pharisees came forward and began to argue with Jesus, seeking from him a sign from heaven to test him.  He sighed from the depth of his spirit and said, “Why does this generation seek a sign?  Amen, I say to you, no sign will be given to this generation.”  Then he left them, got into the boat again, and went off to the other shore (Mk.8:11-13).

Some people tell me it is not good to sigh; but, they have never explained to me why, and so, I sigh even more!  Most often, I sigh when I feel helpless and even hopeless with people and situations; but, surely O Lord, you neither get helpless nor hopeless with us as we keep on asking you for more signs.

Did you sigh, O Lord, because you were so tempted to get down to their level?

Did you sigh, O Lord, so that you would not give in to sin and be like Cain who lost sight of himself and of his brother Abel and eventually of God?

What a beautiful sign of your humanity and divinity as well is your sighing, O Lord, reminding us of our need to always reconnect with the Holy Spirit in the depths of our being especially when temptations for us to sin are so strong that we forget we are our brother’s keeper.

Remind us always O Lord when we sigh that we may think of your many signs of wonder before us, of the many signs of your mercy and love so that we remain rooted in you.  Amen.  Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II, Parokya ng San Juan Apostol at Ebanghelista, Gov. F. Halili Ave., Bagbaguin, Sta. Maria, Bulacan.

“Ashes to Ashes” by Dennis Lambert (1972)

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Yehliu Geopark in Taiwan with “mushroom” rock formations at the background.  Photo by the author, 30 January 2019.
The Lord Is My Chef Sunday Music, 17 February 2019

Every year when Valentine’s comes, I only think of one song:  Dennis Lambert’s “Of All the Things”.  It is probably the ultimate love song of all time especially for us die-hard romantic Filipinos that even Sr. Bubbles Bandojo, rc covered it for a Jesuit CD of popular songs often sung in weddings in the country.  No wonder, Dennis Lambert gained a cult following in the country for that song he released in 1972 from the album “Bags and Things”.

Another cut from that great album is “Ashes to Ashes” which I find as a perfect match for our gospel this Sunday about the Beatitudes preached by Jesus Christ during His sermon on the plain based on St. Luke’s gospel.  In the Beatitudes, Jesus tells us true blessedness and happiness in following Him is being poor, hungry, weeping, and hated by others.  They are paradoxical because they run directly against the values of the world and yet, we know deep in our hearts how they are very true!  Life is not about having and amassing but giving and sharing.  Dennis Lambert reminds us that in the end, we are all “ashes to ashes, dust to dust.”  And there lies the great paradox in this life that Jesus has always reminded us, “Whoever seeks to preserve his life will lose it, but whoever loses it will save it” (Lk.17:33).  The saints who have followed the Lord knew it so well and lived it through as well as poets, writers and musicians like Lambert wrote about it too.  A blessed Sunday to you!

The Beatitudes of Jesus, Paradoxes Of Discipleship

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Dome of the beautiful Church of the Beatitudes in Israel.  Photo by the author, April 2017.
The Lord Is My Chef Sunday Recipe
17 February 2019, Week VI, Year C
Jeremiah 17:5-8///1Corinthians 15:12, 16-20///Luke 6:17, 20-26

            A paradox is a statement that seems contradictory but may be true in fact.  From the Greek words para for beyond and doxa for opinion, a paradox promotes critical thinking and deep introspection or reflections.  Christian living is a life of paradoxes as we often hear Jesus our Lord telling us to lose our lives in order to gain it.  St. Francis of Assisi knew it so well that in his prayer to be an instrument of peace, he rightly claimed that “it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned and it is in dying that we are born into eternal life.”  We shall have a taste of some paradoxical teachings by Jesus Christ beginning today until the next two Sundays before we get into the Season of Lent as we listen from the account by St. Luke of the Lord’s “Sermon on the Plain”.  For this Sunday, we hear the centerpiece of His sermon on that day, the Beatitudes.

            And raising his eyes toward his disciples, he said:  “Blessed are you who are poor, for the kingdom of God is yours.  Blessed are you who are now hungry, for you will be satisfied.  Blessed are you who are now weeping, for you will laugh.  Blessed are you when people hate you, and when they exclude and insult you, and denounce your name as evil on account of the Son of Man.  Rejoice and leap for joy on that day!  Behold, your reward will be great in heaven” (Lk.6:20-23).

            Beatitudes are words of promise that have a strong link from the long line of tradition of Old Testament teachings like the one we heard from the first reading today from Jeremiah:  “Blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose hope is the Lord” (Jer.17:7).  Recall how last Sunday Jesus called His first four disciples led by Simon whom He had asked to be “fishers of men” (Luke chapter 5).  As Jesus went around Galilee preaching and healing the sick, He gained some disciples or followers.  In chapter six, St. Luke tells us Jesus departed to a mountain to pray for the night and upon coming down the following morning, He chose 12 men among His disciples whom He called apostles.  This is now the setting of our gospel today when a vast crowd have followed Jesus, many of whom are poor people with some pagans from Tyre and Sidon who all wish to listen to Him about the word of God and to be healed from their sickness.

             Speaking to His community of disciples that include us now, the Beatitudes by Jesus express the meaning of discipleship which is paradoxical because they run directly against the values of the world.  For Jesus Christ, true blessedness and the way of happiness for us His disciples is being poor, hungry, weeping, and hated.  What a paradox indeed!  Yet, we know deep in our hearts, in our love for Christ and for others especially to those dear to us, we are willing to live with these promise of trials and sufferings because it is the only way to follow Jesus who said “anyone who wishes to follow Him must deny himself, take up his cross daily and follow Him” (Lk.9:23).  The paradox becomes deeper and more paradoxical that we are willing to go through all pains and trials for our love for Jesus and others because we trust in the Lord’s promise that “He will provide us with wisdom in arguing with our enemies… and most of all, not a hair on our head will be destroyed.  By our perseverance we shall secure our lives” (Lk.21:14-19).  We forge on with the Beatitudes because we are convinced in the words of Jesus about the complete reversal of fortunes when that “day” comes for our “rewards in heaven shall be great!” (Lk.6:23)  And that “day” is the “now” when the scriptures are fulfilled in our hearing, when despite the many hardships we go through, we have that firm assurance within of meaning and joy in life because like St. Paul, we firmly believe in our resurrection in Jesus Christ.  Every day we die in our sins, in our sufferings, we share in the passion and death of Jesus; but every day too, we experience rising to new life in Christ in this little deaths we go through in daily living.

              It is along this line that we discover how the Beatitudes reveal to us the mystery of Jesus Christ Himself who calls us into communion with Him and in Him.  When we examine the  Beatitudes, we find Christ being referred to as the one who is poor, hungry, weeping, and hated for He is the first to be so blessed and filled with God when we recall His baptism at Jordan.  In His life, Jesus showed us true blessedness as prophesied by Jeremiah, the one “who trusts and hopes in the Lord… like a tree planted beside waters that despite drought, it shows no stress and still bears fruit” (Jer.18:8).  Without doubt, Jesus was the first to go through all the sufferings and pains of the Beatitudes and the first to resurrect from the dead as St. Paul insisted to the Corinthians.  In following the Beatitudes, we become true fishers of men who catch nothing all night without Christ; but, with Jesus, despite our many losses in life, we continue to cast our nets into the deep so our lives may be fulfilled in Him always.  Life is a mystery, filled with paradoxes that make it so wonderful and beautiful in God.  A blessed week ahead to you!  Amen.  Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II, Parokya ng San Juan Apostol at Ebanghelista, Gov. F. Halili Ave., Bagbaguin, Sta. Maria, Bulacan.

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Sanctuary and altar of the Church of the Beatitudes in Israel.  Photo by the author, April 2017.

Valentine’s Is Love and Death Together

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Lover’s Bridge in Tamsui Fisherman’s Wharf, New Taipei City, Taiwan opened on Feb. 14, 2003.  Photo by author, 29 January 2019.
Quiet Storm by Fr. Nicanor F. Lalog II, 15 February 2019

 I thought last year’s Valentine’s Day was the most interesting in recent years because February 14 fell on an Ash Wednesday, a beautiful juxtaposition of the secular and the sacred that both remind us of love and death.  It happened again to me yesterday very early morning when I drove with my brother down south to visit a beloved aunt who is our late father’s favorite sister sick with Parkinson’s for the last seven years.  It was the closest experience I ever had with the realities of love and death intimately related.

 Unlike my previous visits to her in the last two years, the latest last January 03, Tita Neneng has always looked so sad and depressed with her situation, choosing to be left alone than be seen in her plight.  She used to be bursting with life, so busy with her career and family that upon retirement, she spent it going almost everywhere especially to visit her children in the US.  Yesterday, Tita Neneng was so different, almost like back to her old self as she smiled and talked a lot.  Her face was radiant, exuding with her beauty that had captivated so many men until her 50’s!  She was bubbling with joy as we reminisced the good old days when my father was still alive along with her older siblings, our many family reunions, and of course, our Lola Queta.  After anointing her with Holy Oil for the Sick and giving her the Viaticum, she told me something that made me cry so hard after:  “Father, I am ready.”

Of course, I knew what she meant but I had to lean close to her to ask her again what she just said.  “Father, handa na ako mamatay,” she told me with a smile on her lips while her eyes lovingly looked at me.  I asked her if she had told it to her husband, Tito Terry and she replied, “hindi pa.”  I told her she must tell it to Tito Terry so he would also be ready.  She then looked down, then faced me again and told me, “yung mga anak ko umaasa pa sa milagro.  Ayaw pa nila ako payagan.”  I looked at her and asked permission to inform her children in the States of her feeling ready.
She just smiled.  And I cried.  Very hard.
I had to excuse myself to run for some tissue in her bathroom as I could not contain myself crying and sobbing beside her.  Once in a while, a lesson from our pastoral psychology crossed my mind that as a pastor or minister, I should not cry in front of a patient, but, what can I do?  She’s my dearest aunt who had made me feel so loved and special even before I ever thought of becoming a priest in high school?!

Deep inside me, I also felt some joy amidst the sadness because I felt my Tita Neneng is indeed ready to go anytime soon because she was so composed without any tear in her eyes and always with that sweet smile on her lips.  Before, Tita Neneng would always cry to me, begging me to pray that God would take her as she could not endure her sufferings anymore.  That was before when she begged for death out of desperation as a way out of her pains and sickness.  But yesterday, she simply told me she was ready to die maybe because she must have found her direction in life already.

 Yesterday was actually a déjà vu for me, having experienced it before with my bestest friend from high school seminary, Gil who was diagnosed with colorectal cancer in January 2013.  He would always cry to me whenever I would visit him, asking “why me” with the Big C?  Seven months after undergoing surgery and some chemo treatment, his doctors gave up.  It was time to face the inevitable as his cancer cells were so strongly active; but, surprisingly, my friend Gil accepted it gallantly, even with joy on his face!  I visited him thrice on his final week before he died.  And there I was, breaking into tears before him, crying like a child.  A reversal of roles had suddenly happened with Gil assuring me with everything, explaining things I should know more as a priest.  The most remarkable thing I have discovered with Gil as he approached death was the inner peace he head when he told me how he had forgiven his wife who had abandoned them, telling me how much he still loved her, vowing to keep his marital vows until his end!

 The beloved disciple of Christ wrote, “No one has ever seen God.  Yet, if we love one another, God remains in us, and his love is brought to perfection in us” (1Jn.4:12).

 Have you ever noticed how when our loved ones were diagnosed with serious illness, they always cried to us while we tried to assure them that everything would be fine?  Then, as our loved ones slowly embraced their mortality and faced death, we in turn cried before them who also assured us that everything would be fine?  There seems to be a reversal of roles when our loved ones embrace death because their love has been perfected that they no longer fear anything at all.  They must be so assured of where they are going to in life, unlike us who are still uncertain of what awaits us and that is why we cry when they go.  We not only cry for them but we cry more for ourselves because we have not seen the bigger picture yet that we still love imperfectly.  The great love stories of literature like Shakespeare’s “Romeo and Juliet” and Charles Dickens’ “A Tale of Two Cities” show us that death and love always go together not only for a beautiful story but precisely because death shows the depth of one’s love.  It is in suffering and death love is perfected.  A heart willing to suffer and die for another is the heart that truly loves.  Though love is symbolized by the heart as we have it on Valentine’s day, love is best expressed by the Cross of Jesus Christ who showed us the way of true love.  Coming to terms with life is coming to terms with death and vice versa.  So, let us have Valentine’s day every day!
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